Half
For as long as I’ve known, I have always been interested in why people do the things they do. The motivation behind their actions. There is one question that has bothered me for a while.
Why are men so ready to split half of everything they own with a woman?
This question bothers me deeply because even though I’ve been that type of guy, for some reason I still don’t know the answer.
Why are guys so willing to go above and beyond for a girl they like? Why do guys get so twisted and stupid when there is a girl involved?
First theory, is primal instinct. Men go above and beyond for a girl they like because we are acting out of a primal instinct.
Second theory, is whenever girls are involved, usually emotions follow. Emotions are the enemy of rational thought and decision making. That is why, even the smartest guys can seemingly do dumb shit when emotions are involved. With girls, we act purely out of emotion and not rationality.
These two theories still do not answer the question – why are men so eager and willing to split half of everything with a girl? Could it be that society has primed us in such an efficient way that we think this is the most natural way to act? Have we been set up to believe that giving up half of our things is the norm? It’s certainly expected of two people, who have been together for a long time, to get married. I need to research the origins of marriage in order to have a better understanding of this.
Another question that I want to know the answer to is, why do some men yearn to be around women? For example in my case when I was between the ages of 13 and 21 all I wanted to do was be around girls. Why? This can probably be boiled down to parenting. My father is extremely reliant on women for happiness. I would not be surprised if I discovered that this energy rubbed off onto me. From a very young age he taught us a saying “I’m sorry darling, I love you darling, I miss you darling” sitting here today as a guy that is capable of independent thought and is fully detached from my father’s viewpoints, those words disgust me.
How did my father come to be that way? That question can also be explained but is too much to unravel right now at 2am.
A quick summary. It boils down to a person’s individual experiences. In general, majority of boomers are weak emasculated men and so in turn they raise weak and emasculated children. But there are exceptions to this of course and it works vice versa. A kid will grow up depending on how he is raised. He can either grow up emasculated or he can grow up strong. The cards are definitely stacked against young boys in this day and age. The world is becoming more and more emasculated as time goes by.
Is there any hope that my father can change? I don’t think so. But the bomb of a situation that he finds himself in won’t necessarily explode. It can lay dormant forever under the right circumstances, but make no doubt about it. It’s still a nuclear bomb.
love you daddy